We're Moving
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After so much waiting, praying, pro and con weighing, and decision-making… we’ve finally decided to move to New York City. Brett will be starting a Classics doctoral program at Columbia in August. While I haven’t fully landed on what I’ll pursue while we’re there, I’m pumped on the options I have (continuing my business will definitely be something I will keep doing… I love working with star-crossed lovers on their weddings and vows).

I’ll cry if I start writing about closing out our chapter in Texas, so for now I wanted to share about our love story unfolding in New York. A lot of people don’t know this, but,

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1) My brother has been living in New York for years upon years, so it holds a special place in my heart already.

2) One summer in college, my brother flew me out to help him move, and, as I explored the streets of New York and journaled in the coffee shop down the street from his house, I was considering and praying about my future with Brett.

We’d been dating about one year and I was considering what a future with him would look like. I was simultaneously crazy about him and afraid of marrying him.

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Our society doesn’t talk much about doubts and fears we have before getting married, but it was important for me to process through them and ask myself whether or not my fears were really deal breakers. It was a sweet time for me to also tell God my fears about Brett and to ask Him to give peace to my fears and doubts. And He did. Meanwhile, I walked the city, without the need to be a tourist, and accidentally fell in love with it. I fell in love with the culture and activity. I fell in love with those humans of New York. I fell in love with Falafel.

The next summer I went to New York with my best friend, Amber, for our senior trip. We visited that same coffee shop I had journaled and prayed over my relationship with Brett in, and much to my surprise, as we were talking, I looked over to see Brett walking up to me (Wait, what is he doing in Brooklyn?!) with a ring next to the cupcake I’d ordered (Wait, am I getting proposed to right now?!). Spoiler alert, I said yes.

So we love this city. We’re cautiously optimistic about loving this city throughout every season (like, the cold ones we aren’t so sure about). But for the most part, we’re here for it. And grateful for such a cool opportunity. You can catch us there Mid-August.

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When a girl meets boy, life can be a joy; But the note they end on Will depend on little pleasures they will share. So let us compare:

I like New York in June, how about you? I like a Gershwin tune, how about you? I love a fireside when a storm is due, I like potato chips, moonlight And motor trips, how about you?

I'm mad about good books, can't get my fill. And George Clooney’s looks give me a thrill. Holding hands in a movie show When all the lights are low may not be new; But I like it, how about you?

I like Mindy Kaling’s jokes, to a degree. I love the common folks, that includes me. I like to window shop on 5th Avenue. I like banana splits, late supper at the Ritz How about you?

I love to dream of fame, maybe I'll shine. I'd love to see your name right beside mine. I can see we're in harmony, Looks like we both agree on what to do. And I like it, how about you?

I'll Have What She's Having | APRIL

April is full of awesome movie releases (looking at you Shazam and Avengers), summer music releases, and April showers (duh). What are you loving lately?

  1. Grow as we Go, by Ben Platt (also, the entirety of his new album is amazing). This song during this season of life. Also, this song during every season of life. Also, the song stands alone amazingly. But if you need a sad music video to go with it, Ben doesn’t let you down.

  2. These jumpsuits are WAY out of my price range, but WAY mesmerizing and beautiful.

  3. It’s Coachella this week, so I thought I’d share this Mushroom print by my fave Etsy artist, Shannon Kirsten. Also, on carousel display are my OLLLDD SCHOOL Coachella Instagram snapshots from 2012. I didn’t even know what Coachella was when my brother invited me to go. I had the time of my life.

  4. The way Bri Larson enters The Store in a subtle rainbow of light in Unicorn Store. Now I want to buy a light in every color of the rainbow and have fun colorful photoshoots.

  5. It’s summer time… and in Texas, that means Half price shakes at Sonic!!!

  6. Hannah Beast is the Bachlorette and I’m here for it. My favorite Bachelorette contestant from “the first rose ceremony” wasn’t any of the men. Hannah’s awkwardness is a contestant in and of it self. And honestly, I love that. The fact that she didn’t know what to do or say made her the most authentic Bachlorette yet in my opinion. Bring on this season.

Galentine's Giveaway | You CAN sit with us
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This month I’m practicing what it looks like to be for women. Specifically the women around me. And specifically with words of affirmation and acknowledgement. To friends and strangers alike.

One of my favorite lines from Mean Girls (one of my all time favorite movies and musicals) is when Gretchen yells at Regina “YOU CAN’T SIT WITH US!”.

That line is so iconic. And hilarious. And Ridiculous. And you’ve probably had it yelled at you before by someone sarcastic like me.

But the “you can’t sit with us” mentality is totally something I see in my generation and the generation I mentor.

I've blocked out, judged, or put down other women by verbally and silently communicating they can’t sit with me, compete with me, or have power over me. I've also been on the one blocked out, judged, or put down.

This month I want to be an advocate for change- in the regular every day moments I have. Specifically when it comes to interacting with other women.

I want to encourage women I see at the gym who are working out. I want to smile at other women when I’m walking on campus and if I sit down next to one of them, ask them how their day is going. I want to listen— really listen when I ask women questions about their lives. I want to tell other female entrepreneurs or creatives why I value what they contribute to our field. I want to listen to and befriend more women of color whose experiences might be different from mine. And most importantly— I want the women around me to feel like they’ve been invited to a seat at the table— a seat everyone CAN sit at.

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I thought it was ironic that Camila Cabello came out with her song “Real Friends” this past month. All she wants is some authentic, caring, real friends. And even though I’m not famous and questioning everyone’s motives for being friends with me. I get it. I think we all want that at some level. We want trust-worthy, encouraging, kind, and honest real friends. We want and oftentimes need someone to BE a real friend.

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I wonder what would happen if we all gave some true friend love to the women around us? I wonder what deep rooted message we would communicate with a woman when we tell them they CAN sit with us?


Short Impactful Sentences | Enneagram 9

Words for my life. Based on my enneagram nine.

This is a prayer. And a self-affirmation.

That I wouldn’t fall into busy-ness, but that I would seek out sweeter and deeper quiet. That I would work really really hard to be quiet in my mind… not numb or asleep to my feelings or circumstances.

That I would live life, and not laze through it.

I do not need to be extreme to function… I’m not a workaholic or a sloth. There is a healthy in between.

Work is good and I can work hard. I’m competent to do hard things in my personal and professional life.

Planning and boundaries are good and I put them into place for my benefit, not my detriment.

Turn off to-do lists and choose not to be overwhelmed by “should’s”.

Stand up and live life— even if it’s slower than how I think I should be living it.

Engage with and trust God. 

Praying I wouldn’t fall into busy-ness, but that I would seek out sweeter and deeper quiet. That I would work really really hard to be quiet in my mind.

To turn off to-do lists and “should’s” and to really just sit and live life— even if it’s slower than how I think i should be living it. the most important part is that I’m living and trusting God. 

Amen

P.S. These self-portraits of myself were taken about a week ago, before the snow, on a warm day at the Texas Tech Horticulture Garden. I’m wearing a Target cardigan, Madewell (similar here) Collared Shirt, thrifted black tie, and thrifted plaid skirt. My kneesocks are from Target and my shoes are Lotta from Stockholm.

P.P.S. If I can take such quality self-portraits, I’d love for you to consider hiring me as your photographer for life’s celebrations and jamborees. :)

Snow Day

Something about waking up to see the world draped in the whitest snow… I never wanted to stop looking out the window today.

While we weren’t walking around campus, Brett was studying for finals, I was therapeutically rearranging our kitchen and living room, and I watched Netflix’ Dumplin’ (and really loved it). There was a glass of eggnog in there somewhere.


Aunt Stacie

A few days ago I got to meet my besties baby.

It’s Ambers first time having a human, so it was fun, weird, and joy-inducing to see it all firsthand.

When you’ve known someone almost 25 years of your life, and then all of a sudden they’ve got this human they are in charge of keeping alive, I’m not sure you see them in a new light, but you see them in an admirable light. You admire their courage to take on something so fragile and unknown.

Being a mom is admirable and hard.

I saw the tiredness in Amber’s eyes. Honestly, I heard the fear in her voice at times when she talked about what it feels like to be a mom. But through those two steady states, I saw her deep rooted love for Zoe the most. Love—- Something I noticed she wanted to describe during one of our conversations, but could almost find no words to portray it accurately (… maybe she couldn’t find the words because she’d been up the whole night before?). The love that reaches beyond tired eyes and confusing newborn baby cries. Love that actually casts out all fear.

It continually gives me bone shivers and soul tremors that the love Amber gives is sustained and provided by the One who sees beyond her unknowns and fears. The One whose rod and staff comfort her as she walks His path of righteousness. As a mom, He will give her rest in green pastures and lead her beside still waters. As a mom, He will show her what it’s like to care for and lead her own sheep.

And as for Amber and I, I believe he will lead our friendship through my own fears and anxieties too.

I was afraid of our relationship changing when she got pregnant. I was afraid our new normal would only consist of conversations revolving around babies, kids, parenting, cloth diapers, etc.

For two people who have walked the earth together for twenty-five years, I was afraid of being in two very different life stages for once. We’ve stumbled and struggled through middle school braces, high school drama (in the theatre and out of the theatre if you know what I mean), and similar college experiences. For the most part, we dated our husbands at the same time, got engaged in the same year, and got married within a year of each other. When you’ve lived such similar life paths, how do you relate when it feels like you started taking two very different paths?

Sometimes I think being a Christian means walking the path that’s in front of you, but being willing to interact with other people on paths that really don’t look like ours. Some Christians, I think, are actually pretty bad at this. Myself included at times. What does it look like to walk the entrepreneur/college spiritual mentor path when my best friend is walking the mom path? What does it look like for my best friend to walk the mom path while her daughter is only just beginning to exist in this world?

Maybe sometimes I will be sad that we aren’t necessarily on the same page any more. But maybe it means I get to be pumped for who Amber gets to be. Maybe it means we get to celebrate the two different humans we are becoming. Maybe two different life stages will continually remind us that no matter where we are, it’s more about Who we follow.