I was a virgin when I got married at 23. 

I went to the gynecologist because I wanted to go on birth control a few months before having sex for the first time.

I remember being so nervous for this check up. My hands were shaking and my armpits were sweating. I’d never had anyone prod around down there and I had no idea what this visit entailed (I’ve always thought it would be nice for gynecologists to have a “Is it your first time?” pamphlet for women so they can know what to expect at their first appointment— same for therapists too).